I mean, I love telling other people what to believe—but that’s because I love meddling, not because I love science.
Listen, when you use a word of hate ironically — like, and your defense is “I’m not racist, how could you ever think I’m racist??” I want you to imagine owning a gun, but never buying live ammunition. You only purchase blanks. Ok?
And say sometimes when you hang out with your close friends, you take out your gun, which they know contains no live ammunition, and you shoot it at stuff, and you think it’s funny. And maybe the first time you do it, they’re like “Shit. I mean, I know those are blanks, but that’s kind of fucked up,” but your argument is, “But I can’t really hurt anyone! They’re just blanks!” And over time they just get used to it and find it kind of funny. “Oh, that Cliff, sometimes he takes his gun out and shoots some blanks, but he doesn’t really mean anything. It’s just funny! You know how it goes.”
Now, imagine that over time, having received the acceptance for your actions from your friends, you decide you can start firing blanks around people you’ve never met. In mixed company. You’re at a dinner party one night, you’ve had a few, so you go “Hey, wanna see something cool?!” and those who are your friends at the party know what’s coming, so they’re prepared, but then the people who don’t know you, they see you whip out a piece and go “Oh shit, I’m going to die, it’s everything I feared,” but your friends explain to them it’s not a big deal, there’s nothing to be afraid of, “Cliff wouldn’t hurt a fly,” so they eventually, begrudgingly, don’t say anything about it, don’t call you, Cliff, a fucking asshole. “Fine, it’s kind of ridiculous, but whatever.” Something like that.
And then you are at a large public place. A concert, an open mic, where you and your friends are outnumbered by the rest of the audience. And maybe someone pushes you or gives you a hard time, so you decide, just to give the guy a taste of his own medicine, to pull out your gun, and fire some blanks. Give him a real, real visceral jump. And everyone around you feels threatened, unsafe, about to be part of something they were always on some subconscious level afraid would happen, but at the same time hopeful it would never happen because our society’s getting smarter and more considerate of those around them. And then some other people, who after seeing it happen, feel relieved that you were firing blanks, but also feel empowered by your choice to fire a weapon in a public place, and choose to do the same thing.
Do you get it yet?
The fact is that derogatory remarks, whether used sincerely or ironically, and ammunition, whether blank or live, still creates the same environment of discomfort and fear every time it is used. So cut the shit.
- Junot Diaz
Where is this from?
Unlike Americans, French employers and workers quote salaries as net, not gross—so your salary is what you receive after deductions for health care and other social services.
— In France, a “costly” doctor’s appointment is actually free | Claire Lundberg | Slate
I wish they would do that here. I think people would be a lot less negative about taxes, etc if that was how salaries were discussed here. And budgeting would be easier too.
[also, true story about the maternity care, I was born in St. Louis and my brother in Paris; I’ve been hearing about this my whole life]
want to speak for a minute on the subject of ‘outing’ someone. Regardless of gender, sexuality, race, putting all of that aside. Overall, the idea of ‘outing.’
A lot of people feel like it’s their right to know. It’s your right as a member of the LGBTQ community to know how someone else identifies. It’s your right as a journalist to know what body parts someone was born with. It’s your right as a member of society to know who someone is sleeping with, just because their career happens to be in the spotlight.
I want to let you know that you are wrong. Not only are you wrong, you’re a part of the problem. Privacy is something we, as a society, struggle with on a daily basis and on every level. I know women who work in offices and don’t talk about their boyfriends. I know men who date men, but the world around them thinks they date women. I know women, who were born male-bodied, but do not identify as trans*.
All of these things are okay. In fact, they’re more than okay, in a lot of cases they’re necessary. I’m not just talking about the potential for violent crimes, which by the way is OUTRAGEOUS. Safety is a huge issue, especially in the LGBT*Q community, EVEN MORE so in the trans* community, EVEN MORE MORE so if you’re a person of color in the trans* community. And, my god, we need countless amounts of education on this subject. We need to be talking about these things.
But this goes even further than that, this goes back to the beginning. This is about feeling like you have the right to out someone. What’s more, the obligation to out someone. Your journalistic integrity which is so self-important you’re willing to risk the quality of lives of others, and more than the quality of life. The ACTUAL LIFE.
People who will lose their jobs, their families, their sense of self, and again their lives, because of something which is not your right in the first place.
What’s more, as a member of the community, thinking it’s okay to out another member of the community? Are you fucking serious? Do you not remember the feelings of absolutely terror and confusion at the mere prospect of coming out? Do you not recognize the journey we all have to go through? Is your sassy bullshit joke and pointed-finger more important than another human beings’ sense of self? Shaming/bullying someone into coming out is so fucked. Just stop.You can not imagine how damaging it is to out another human being. You have no right to stake claim on their person. You have no right strip them naked and shove them in the middle of a crowded room and point out what you consider to be a flaw. Your ignorance is your own, you can choose to be educated and understand or you can choose to put yourself first and take our society ten steps backwards. Think before you speak, your words could directly affect the lives and safety of those around you
"If you are only ever going to read one thing on the economics of the minimum wage, make it this piece in today’s NYT by UMass, Amherst economist Arin Dube. He hits every relevant issue perfectly."
Of course no one is troubled by a pope who embraces the sick and loves the poor. But when he dares to reflect on the moral and structural causes of poverty, that is a different matter.
Solid remarks from the pope, and ok article in CNN Opinion